You can turn your brain off for this one.
Have you ever noticed certain men are the “man crushes” of other men? I can think of a few examples from my circles, and certainly there are some great fictitious characters: Donald Draper, Ron Swanson, Harvey Spector, Jake Ryan, and my personal favorite -Tim Riggins. Something about these men draw other men to this type of man.
I wondered what all these characters had in common. What makes up their mysterious x factor? In my I- have-absolutely-no-idea-what-I’m-talking-about opinion:
They never stammer, sway, or go back and forth on decisions. They do what they set out to do and only need the approval of a handful of people. They don’t back down or show fear in tense situations. They go straight into conflict and uncomfortable situations instead of trying to get around them.
They don’t talk a lot. Calm and collected, they aren’t chatty or spastic..or friendly, really. Somehow they always know exactly what to say and when to say it. Maybe they are faking it. The point is we’ll never know the difference.
Secure in Manhood
When the situation calls, they can pull off dancing, hugging, crying and expressing feelings without batting an eye. It appears to go back to the confidence thing- they don’t question themselves, so no one else does, either.
These characters do what they want to do 98% of the time.
They all have something- sports, music, or brains, that earns them the respect of other men.
Competitor vs. Leader
Man crushes aren’t usually the designated leader. They aren’t the type to seek out leadership positions, which confused me at first because they all do step up and lead when needed. In the end, I think they do come through not out of a desire to actually have the role, but because they want victory for themselves.
…I’m curious if any brave male readers care to weigh in. Why are you drawn to certain men?
Clear eyes, full hearts, can’t lose;)