Same-sex marriage. ugh…talk about a bomb. I struggled all week over whether to bring it up. Since this is, in theory, a blog about relationships, it seems to fit under the umbrella. My main problem with blogging about it is that above all, I wish Christians would stay out of it…. And here I am. Getting involved. Publicly. Here are my main thoughts as of today:
1. I’m not the best person to ask. I am straight. My closest friends and family are straight. I’m also pretty politically ignorant at this time in my life. I worked on a political radio show just long enough to become disenchanted. I’d be lying through my teeth if I said I watched more CNN than STYLE Network. The one thing I bring to the table is my ability to (hopefully) think and care about people as best I can through a Christian perspective.
2. A friend had a status update of “If you don’t like gay marriage, don’t get gay married“. Bold. Can’t say I don’t like it. I don’t like the idea of legislating my religious Christian values on people who aren’t Christian. I wouldn’t want it done to me. Do I think homosexuality is a sin? I do. Do I sin? All time. It’s messy. Government isn’t the answer.
3. I hate the idea of putting anything in between someone who doesn’t know Jesus and Jesus. Like a street corner poster, unwelcoming spirit, or that weird shakey face thing women get when they are talking while angry/afraid. Who can see Jesus through all of that? If we believe He offers the best plan for life, let’s lovingly lead people to Him and let Him take care of the convicting and changing.
4. Same-sex marriage isn’t the biggest problem facing marriage and family. We are. We’ve done a terrible job with fidelity, fathering, and set unrealistic expectations for marriage all on our own. Can you imagine if Christians took all their passion, time, money and energy and channelled it into growing healthy singles, marriages, and parents that were centered on Christ? If we held out a way of life that people wanted in on then sin could be traded for life, bondage for freedom, fear for peace. RELEVANT Magazine posted a smart people debate about it. My main issue with the writer who is against same-sex unions is that he is worried about what it will do for the definition/meaning of marriage. To me, it’s entirely up to me to take care of the definition of my marriage and keep it Biblical. It’s up to me to make it meaningful, not culture.
Hopefully this came across as an invitation for discussion. What do you think? What have I missed? How or will you vote? Please leave your thoughts. Especially if they are different from mine. But also if they are like mine. Than I’ll feel better about myself. Just kidding. Kind of.