We are overdue for a DecemRED Giveaway update!:) This time of year is insane, right? I can’t figure out how moms get everything done. Anyway, I’ve been wearing red lipstick literally everywhere I go for a little over two weeks now. Here are a few highlights:
Places I Loved It
- Holiday parties
- Meeting friends for dinner
- Christmas shopping
The Riskiest Place I Wore It
- Job Interview (although I did read wearing a splash of red increases your chance of getting hired b/c it shows confidence and strength.)
Places I felt Ridiculous
- Anywhere before noon
What I’ve learned
- I look less like the walking dead in red lipstick
- It’s a lot like high heels in that you feel pulled together all the time
- It’s super annoying and has to be touched up constantly
Favorite Red Lipstick Moment:
My level of red lipstick enjoyment has everything to do with my environment. There are places where a bold lip is appreciated, and places where it is not. In general, getting “dolled-up” for any type of active sport is not ideal. You can understand why I mentally had to prepare myself for wearing it to my sister-in-law, Jenni’s birthday party at a rock climbing gym.
When I arrived, I did my best to forget I had it on while searching the gym for the birthday party. I’m 99% sure it was all in my head, but I felt like the sporty girls in their earth toned yoga pants were judging my bright red lipstick. Once I found everyone, Jenni waved a big hello and introduced me to her climbing friends. They were all super athletic and the kind of girls who are beautiful without makeup. I should also mention that they are amazing climbers and I’m not very good…..I like doing things I’m good at…… I like looking the part… I don’t think I’m alone in this.
Feeling uncomfortable, I tried to explain myself right away and reminded Jenni about my blog challenge. Then she did the best thing- she said they’d ALL put on red lipstick for the climbing day! The others were into it and one girl admitted she’s secretly been wanting to try it for some time. I gladly passed my tube around and the fun began! Since we were all in it together, our bright red lips weren’t out-of-place and we all agreed we looked better climbing with it on;) More importantly, I noticed the uncomfortable ice was broken, I made instant new friends, and felt closer to my sister-in-law.
Thanks to Jenni, what I thought was going to be my toughest challenge ended up being my favorite day of all! It reminded me of a time a few years ago when my family took a trip to Alaska. Jenni and I decided it would be funny to wear bright lipstick with our sweatshirts to this fancy wine tasting thing. Since neither of us wear a ton of makeup, we played it up and laughed at ourselves the entire time. It is one of my favorite memories from the whole trip.
In nearly every story I’ve received this month, one of you mentions something about a prior fear or hesitancy over wearing red lipstick. It turns out most of you have been waiting for an excuse or simply needed someone to do it with. And like my new climbing friends, the challenge has given us the opportunity.
It’s crazy that something as small and insignificant as lipstick could bond people or help us make new friends, but I see it all the time. It’s the moment in the silent bathroom line when one stranger says, “I love your shoes” and instantly we all start chatting and remember we’re on the same team. It’s how as a female you know you’re “in” with a new a co-worker after she asks for some reassurance on her new haircut. It’s not actually the clothes, or the hair, or the shoes that connects us, it’s the shared vulnerability. We become friends when we admit our insecurities to each other. With all the pressure to maintain an image, look perfect, and compete all the time, having another girl ask, “Do I look ok?” or say “You look great in that” truly goes a long way.
Thanks for sending all your stories! My friend Bree even wrote a blog of her own about her day in red lipstick! Click here to read it. It’s not too late to join in the fun! Hashtag #decemred on Instagram or post on facebook:) Each post gets you an entry for a 31 Bits necklace.
Also, I want to tell you that Jenni helps lots of men and women feel great about themselves every day. She co-owns a fitness business called Rough Fit in Tustin that goes far beyond other boot camps by helping people make fitness a way of life. My favorite part is that you are actually part of a team with other people and everyone rallies together to reach their goals. If you are in the area and wanting to make some changes in the new year, definitely check them out!